My 13 year old daughter found out that her best friend was about to start softball, and even though she had never done anything like it, she wanted IN!
I was torn.
On one hand, I thought a coached sport would be great. On the other hand, it meant sign up fees, equipment expenses, and the VERY REAL possibility of her losing interest. My brain was about to short circuit trying to make a decision.
When it comes to being stuck on making a decision, a really great way to handle the analysis paralysis is to GET YOUR BRAIN OUT OF IT and tune to your body wisdom. A great mentor of mine taught me that the mind can be influenced by all sorts of information that may or may not be in your best interest, but your amazing body knows what’s best. Our brains are heavily influenced by our protective EGO (which I’ve heard is an acronym for Edging God Out LOL), and we don’t always make the best decisions from there.
Based on learning this, I devised a way to get my brain out of the mix. I call it the body wisdom or “chair” process (7 min YouTube video below):
Put 2 identical chairs next to each other
Write the choices on small pieces of paper and fold them up (they should look the same)
Have someone mix them up (or throw them behind you), and set one under each chair.
Now your brain doesn’t know which is which, but your body does…
Sit in each chair for a few breaths. Close your eyes and feel into the energy of that space. I like to put my hands on my heart to ask it for help. Determine where it feels better to sit. Which space feels more alive?
My daughter and I both did the Body Wisdom process for the softball decision. We BOTH got NO.
However, LOL, the pull of peer pressure and her persistence won out, and we signed her up anyway!!! We barely got past the assessment phase for team placements, when everything was shut down due to Shelter In Place to slow the spread of COVID-19.
So much for the registration fees and the equipment is now collecting dust.
Body Wisdom wins. In my experience, it pretty much wins every time.
Give the process a try for your next decision and let me know what you discover!!